tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post3170952871567738463..comments2023-09-21T11:38:06.279-04:00Comments on * * * House Fairy * * *: Like my title says, gather sound advice and trust my instincts. Here we go...Housefairyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158143680987249710noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-19843126273819086792008-06-29T02:09:00.000-04:002008-06-29T02:09:00.000-04:00Mamajoy- I think you did exactly what you should ...Mamajoy- I think you did exactly what you should have done- You listened to your body, to your baby, and you made a conscious choice about your birth. All of the factors you described, from Steve's time off to your hobbling pain to your need to conserve your energy- The whole picture you painted made me support and trust your decision, and your right to make it. Mamas have to think about all of their children and what they can realistically do- and how to safeguard valuable resources like energy. Love and peace to you and your brood, and congratulations on a powerful and empowered birth. I feel very proud of you, for what it's worth!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-40303628863795934892008-06-22T19:45:00.000-04:002008-06-22T19:45:00.000-04:00Hey, just wanted to say that if you found the Hypn...Hey, just wanted to say that if you found the Hypnobabies tracks annoying now, you probably would have found them to be completely irritating during labor... I said, "F*** the bubble of peace!" and other profanities directed at the Hypnobabies tracks during my HBAC labor... I think for the women it works for, great... but I kind of felt like I was sold a hill of beans. :) I "read ahead" and saw the pics of your beautiful baby girl. Congratulations!Jen @ VBACFacts.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15771282821508523388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-80325669545975884892008-06-15T22:13:00.000-04:002008-06-15T22:13:00.000-04:00I'm very excited to hear about your new beauty. C...I'm very excited to hear about your new beauty. Congratulations! It's been amazing to watch your journey this last year. You never know where life will take you...I'm glad you could make the best choice for you. :)Angihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15538218824733401013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-60431421668166281412008-06-14T14:50:00.000-04:002008-06-14T14:50:00.000-04:00Much love to you and your sweet new babe.I'm so ve...Much love to you and your sweet new babe.<BR/>I'm so very proud of you.<BR/>Speedy healing and much milk to you!:)<BR/>Xx.Louisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17777614897667728830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-16189477939372016762008-06-13T18:23:00.000-04:002008-06-13T18:23:00.000-04:00Our babies have the same birthday, Joy! How cool ...Our babies have the same birthday, Joy! How cool is that! Congrats, and I'm sure you're snuggling your baby girl this minute just like I am.<BR/><BR/>Love ya!Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703334707738126703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-27407472699046081712008-06-13T12:26:00.000-04:002008-06-13T12:26:00.000-04:00Nothing feels better than to be at peace with your...Nothing feels better than to be at peace with your decision. You've put so much time and effort and thought into this, I just wish you a Happy Baby Birthday. I'm sure she's here by now. I can't wait to see her!<BR/><BR/>God bless you and your family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-78981097404185120272008-06-13T10:35:00.000-04:002008-06-13T10:35:00.000-04:00I want to say congrats! This was obviously not an ...I want to say congrats! <BR/><BR/>This was obviously not an easy decision for you and one you considered for a long time. But it was yours alone to make. You know your body and you know what is best for you. Maybe that's cliche, but it is true. <BR/><BR/>And you are not some creepy celeb coming in for the scheduled C/tummy tuck so that you can go film a movie next month. ;) <BR/><BR/>Praying for a quick and easy recover this time!mama khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05070909433011566246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-44934689011404483182008-06-12T02:15:00.000-04:002008-06-12T02:15:00.000-04:00So you probably have your precious baby by now. C...So you probably have your precious baby by now. Congratulations.<BR/><BR/>Your honesty is beautiful. I am only sad that you feel the need to justify and defend your decision. We women are very hard on each other when it comes to giving birth.<BR/><BR/>With my first child I was in labor for 23 hours, 10 of those on pitocin and did not dilate past 2 cm, and ended up having a c-section.<BR/><BR/>My second c-section was scheduled, and yes it made a huge difference in my recovery, not having labored first.<BR/><BR/>You have done what is right for you and your family. I think most of your readers know how hard the decision was; so your honesty is even more beautiful.<BR/><BR/>Congratulations again.HWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09260566913424446132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-72472927892404845802008-06-11T22:34:00.000-04:002008-06-11T22:34:00.000-04:00Congratulations!I am turned off a bit, however, th...Congratulations!<BR/><BR/>I am turned off a bit, however, that one of your reasons for choosing a cesarean was that you have fears regarding the SPD because of stories you've read. So many of us have suffered through debilitating SPD and it has not hindered our births whatsoever. <BR/><BR/>That being said, I personally would never attempt a breech delivery, and I'm one of those homebirthers that will avoid the hospital unless it's a life or death emergency (or a breech babe.) <BR/><BR/>Good luck and enjoy your new arrival.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-41390993497012631062008-06-11T21:07:00.000-04:002008-06-11T21:07:00.000-04:00I'm not going to read any of the other comments un...I'm not going to read any of the other comments until I write my own, so here goes...<BR/><BR/>Mama Joy... I have been thinking about you nonstop lately. I know this pregnancy has been nothing less than an incredible journey that you never in a million years anticipated.<BR/><BR/>If there is ONE thing I ever harp to women (in general), it is to make decisions based on your gut, based on your experiences, and based on what is best for you and your family. <BR/><BR/>I'm proud of you for making such a tough decision. Nobody wants to set themselves up for misery and failure, nor does anyone want to cave and make the supposed "easy choice". You have done neither. <BR/><BR/>You and your family will be in my thoughts in the coming days and weeks and I wish you nothing less than a speedy recovery and good health.<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>Monkey's MamaMama to Monkeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696704625536509191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-49801355254702603562008-06-11T19:34:00.000-04:002008-06-11T19:34:00.000-04:00Best wishes, Joy. You sound like you have thought...Best wishes, Joy. You sound like you have thought everything through very carefully, and if this is a true inner knowing, I can understand you following your intuition. <BR/><BR/>Have you read my website page on SPD? I had it too, and I know how debilitating it can be. I'm so sorry you have had it so badly. <BR/><BR/>I have not read your blog before so I don't know if you have already tried all the different therapies like chiropractic care etc., so apologies if you've already tried them and they didn't help......but if you haven't, you might want to check them out. They help many people with SPD, including me.<BR/><BR/>Look for the pubic pain page on my website www.plus-size-pregnancy.org, if you want to read more about chiro care as an option. It's not enough to just do back/sacrum adjustments; they really need to look at whether the pubic symphysis itself needs adjusting (and not all chiros do this). But again, if this is something you've already tried, my apologies and please don't feel judged or nagged. Just putting it out there for your consideration.<BR/><BR/>Regardless, I wish you and baby the best, hope all goes well tomorrow, and may you feel better soon!!!<BR/><BR/>kmomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-9945100063947659552008-06-11T18:27:00.000-04:002008-06-11T18:27:00.000-04:00You are in my thoughts too. I love the way you wri...You are in my thoughts too. I love the way you write and everything you have to say. I was in a similar spot 2 years ago as you and I can relate. I can't wait to hear about your precious new baby girl!clarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765926746058915959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-23614325177457483292008-06-11T16:21:00.000-04:002008-06-11T16:21:00.000-04:00good on you joy! as someone more terrified of hosp...good on you joy! as someone more terrified of hospitals and c sections than anything else in the world, if i was in your position (with the spd alone) i would do exactly what you're doing. you're not a martyr to some cause, you're a real mama. you're doing the right thing, absolutely the right thing.<BR/><BR/>you probably have your sweet baby now, way to go warrior mama.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-36179206003243962552008-06-11T14:50:00.000-04:002008-06-11T14:50:00.000-04:00You need to write a book! This is your best post y...You need to write a book! This is your best post yet.<BR/>EmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-64281568927320472052008-06-11T14:14:00.000-04:002008-06-11T14:14:00.000-04:00I'm crying as I read your post--not from sadness, ...I'm crying as I read your post--not from sadness, but from happiness that you have found something so right for you. Maybe we'll be having our babies on the same day. I started contractions this morning at 3:00.<BR/><BR/>I love you, and I am so happy that you found something so wonderful and workable for you.<BR/><BR/>Congratulations on the birth of your new little one. :) Yay!Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703334707738126703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-21933170693830674702008-06-11T14:13:00.000-04:002008-06-11T14:13:00.000-04:00I'm glad, too. And whatever I say here isn't pand...I'm glad, too. And whatever I say here isn't pandering to whatever I think you want me to pander to. I'm a bigtime homebirth proponent, but even bigger is my belief that people should do what's right for them personally. I've been worried about you, not in the way elder family members condescendingly worry about women during their pregnancies, just worried for you, for someone I admire, for the pain you need to be through with. <BR/><BR/>And I totally understand your decision. I'd likely make the same one were I in your boat. I'm really glad you don't have to go through the horrible fight just to have a vaginal delivery, that you can deliver this baby in peace.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08031053074608687740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-86834305687776194472008-06-11T11:30:00.000-04:002008-06-11T11:30:00.000-04:00You know what, Joy? I am glad. Really GLAD. I kept...You know what, Joy? I am glad. Really GLAD. I kept checking your blog every day hoping to hear you'd had your baby, partially out of excitement to see the little one, but mostly in hopes that your suffering would finally be over. I agree with your doc (he sounds like a gem, BTW!), and to be quite honest, if I were in your shoes, I might make the same decision too. <BR/><BR/>Yes homebirth is awesome and it should be the gold standard for healthy low risk women everywhere. But the dangers of you having a normal birth far outweigh the benefits, so you are making a smart choice, and that's really what it's all about, isn't it? We can't prattle on about rights if we scorn those who choose Plan B, beacuse they have the RIGHT to do so too.<BR/><BR/>It is 11:30 a.m. here, and you likely are holding your babe for the very first time as I type this. I'm so happy for you, and so relieved.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475112158639748154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-52620300692592444362008-06-11T11:20:00.000-04:002008-06-11T11:20:00.000-04:00What a great post. Between what you wrote, and my...What a great post. Between what you wrote, and my own painful pregnancies, I can understand, and I am in awe of your calm insight. I was 'against' induction but in so much pain that I had to change my belief. There is no better birth than one that has a mother at peace with herself. I'll be thinking of you all tomorrow!!TracyKMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07498896222222982320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-88315133608821249802008-06-11T10:24:00.000-04:002008-06-11T10:24:00.000-04:00For all that might be unsaid or unhealed....I am s...For all that might be unsaid or unhealed....I am so grateful and happy that you are in the "place" you are; I am so pleased that you have, finally, gotten the support, care and peace of mind through this birth that you've needed. I could not have asked for a better "outcome" for you: "birth choice" means nothing if you don't have interior freedom; that's what I've been saying and writing about for so long; for all the differences, Joy, we still share so many basic agreements about the nature of birth, women, life.....I'll be thinking and praying about and for you and I'm so glad that you will soon be literally, "on your feet" and "up and around" and tending your little flock in the wonderful, unique, fun and tender way that you do. Best of everything.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14569442682455340958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-68820542229396995932008-06-11T09:26:00.000-04:002008-06-11T09:26:00.000-04:00Wow, your sweet baby will be here tomorrow???? Tha...Wow, your sweet baby will be here tomorrow???? That is so exciting!!! Joy, this is such a relief... I can easily spare you from gushing how totally I understand. I don't just freaking understand, I already read your mind a few weeks back. I was *so* hoping you're not still trying to put yourself through more of... ack, you described it better than I can. <BR/>You know what though? (cheeky me) You are ready and prepared for your baby's beautiful birthing. You're staying centered and balanced and will be giving birth in safety and peace. (this is the one mantra that's forever burned into my brain by hypnobabies from listening to it six hundred times during labor. I hope one day you'll pass that stuff on to someone who might benefit from it, or back to me so I can do the same, when you get a chance, not necessarily in the next fill-in-the-blank number of weeks, okay dear?)<BR/><BR/>Hooray for the baby daughter you'll meet sooooo sooon! Yay!Judithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01310462426087335112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-64539504487136261462008-06-11T08:48:00.000-04:002008-06-11T08:48:00.000-04:00Just like you told me last week, you don't have to...Just like you told me last week, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone. I knew, deep inside, that I needed to have an unassisted birth with Isabella. I also knew, deep inside, that I needed to have support at the twins' birth. And you know, deep inside, that this morning you needed to have surgery. <BR/><BR/>I'm praying the SPD gets right on out of town. <BR/><BR/>Enjoy her soft sweetness Joy. I'm thinking about you and praying for a peaceful birth. I admire your courage and your honestly so much.CNHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17478646527089888684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-49105792710028887682008-06-11T06:12:00.000-04:002008-06-11T06:12:00.000-04:00*hugs* You'll be in my thoughts! Enjoy your babymo...*hugs* You'll be in my thoughts! Enjoy your babymoon!Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02860907200379863018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-11104364110137710732008-06-11T03:37:00.000-04:002008-06-11T03:37:00.000-04:00Peace. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow. Enjoy yo...Peace. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow. Enjoy your birth!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02322251975208147077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-4205199946511193752008-06-11T02:52:00.000-04:002008-06-11T02:52:00.000-04:00It is amazing to hear the rightness and clarity of...It is amazing to hear the rightness and clarity of a heartfelt decision - a CHOICE about birthing because it just feels right - no slogans or camps or idealism hijacking the situation - just simple introspection and trust in your own knowing. We all have ideals and hopes and beliefs, but you are so right when you speak about the way life tiptoes in...we must respond to what life asks of us. <BR/><BR/>Two months ago, almost exactly, I gave birth by cesarean that was sad because I wanted something else, but it was also joyful, respectful, it was a choice, it was loving, it was my daughters Birth. It was not traumatic or dramatic and I know just how healing it can be to choose rather than react. How much freedom one can feel when listening within and responding to your own, inner voice about what must be.<BR/><BR/>I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Thinking of you and your daughter and the courage and hope it takes to birth her with medical support. May your birth journey be completed with the introspection and self-love that has been guiding you all along.<BR/><BR/>Sending you peace and love, joy and celebration...and lots of down time with your husband's time off and all the other kiddos being cared for!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6650719792924060292.post-78129572582794465012008-06-11T02:23:00.000-04:002008-06-11T02:23:00.000-04:00oops, can't really be a former native, but that's ...oops, can't really be a former native, but that's me over or under thinking.<BR/>Enjoy your babymoon!Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13996411082862566774noreply@blogger.com