Would you let your pet bunny hop into an eagle's cage?
Would you set your puppy out in the middle of an interstate?
Would you lock your baby sister naked into a known child molester's basement lair?
When we do nothing and say nothing as our sisters and friends walk so ignorantly, so innocently, so mindlessly into the world of the hospital birth-machinery, are we not doing the same thing? When we downplay the horrors of what can happen, when we downplay our own homebirth stories and when we "bite our toungues", are we not doing the same thing?
I would like you all to go check out the thought provoking coments section to an innocent and I believe sincere question posted on the Sisterhood Six website. Go read all this and then I will be working on my own bit. Im too overwhelmed and exhausted by the idea of responding on that page. I think the other women said it beautifully, all of them.
I also wanted say that I watched alot of hospital birth on Television via the likes of A Baby Story, Maternity Ward, and other types of shows.
Then I watched alot of homebirths. Some on A Baby Story. Some on video. I read and read and read in things like Compleat Mother magazine, Mothering Magazine. Spiritual Midwifery. Our Bodies, Ourselves. Hip Mama. Websites.
The two events, hospital birth and homebirth were like comparing apples to oranges. The nastiest rapey sex in the trunk of a car with a scuzzy stinky stranger to tantric golden mind blowing lovemaking. Or better yet, heaven to hell. Humiliation, degradation, infantilizing terror to...I dunno...life altering empowering gloriously ecstatic spiritual blossoming most important Rite of Passage?
I'll write more soon.
Meantime ask yourself this: How many birth stories have you been compiling? Watching? Witnessing? How many of your friends tell you about their hospital births and say "it went well" and then the real stories trickle out....How many of your friends tell you about their homebirths?
What do they say?
Do you internalize these stories? Do you believe them? If not, do you contemplate why you think these mothers are lying? What do they stand to gain from twisting their tales? Are they scrounging for a tiny piece of their autonomy back? Do you ever notice the hospital birthing Mamas stories changing depending on who they are talking to? Do you hear a change as time takes them further away from the birth?