Please go read this right now
Please understand it is NOT cool, ok, or something we should ever ever blow off, downplay, or forget about, how messed up c-section surgery really is. Compound it with how many are so so unecessary and with all that is inherent in birthing itself for a woman and her family and then tell me it doesnt matter, be glad, be happy, get over it, dont dwell, move on, drop it, be grateful, you dont really know if it was unecessary.......
Great powerful new blog I found thanks to Meconium Happens, another great blog.
Please Mamas who have never been cut, WORK SO SO MUCH HARDER TO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU
Please Mamas who have been cut, DO NOT LET ANYONE BLOW YOU OFF OR TELL YOU TO BE GLAD OR TO DECIDE FOR YOU HOW LONG IS LONG ENOUGH TO PROCESS IT ALL. Work hard hard hard to have your VBACs
and P L E A S E, friends and family of Mamas who have been through this, know that this is so much more than surgery, and that it is a major major surgery from which you do not get to heal or rest, only to be thrust immediately into the hardest job on Earth while severed in half, abused, battered and depleted. PLEASE help the new mothers, please do whatever you can for them, please hang out with them, please call them, please bring them pizzas and clean laundry and fresh fruits and veggies and please be there for them through the years--it still hurts, I promise you.
Great stuff, difficult stuff, worrisome stuff, happening everyday right here and now.
And PS my c section area and my whole lower belly hurt ALOT and it has been 26 months. It feels like it should be very badly discolored, as with a bruise, it is very sore and hurts to be brushed against lightly and to be pushed or touched, the whole area. It sucks.